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Remembering Jianxin


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Posted by Yuping Cui on April 12, 2010 at 16:44:45:

Thanks for Zhang Hui’s beautifully written eulogy for Jianxin. This is the third time that I'm reading it. Now it is mid-night Sat, 24 hrs after breaking of sad news, sadness has been surround me since, and I managed pass through the day with chores. Now I am alone in front of laptop, no traffic nor human voice, a quiet moment to remember Jianxin. I believe Jianxin’s soul is still alive and hovering around like an angel, and I feel I am in communication with her again through my thoughts.

It took me back to the beginning years of Ke-Da, and many encounters with her in the years after. There were many happy moments merged in front of me. In every single replay, it was always accompanied by heart felt laugh that makes one belly ache, in tears, or out of breath. If it hasn’t been obvious to me before, it is absolutely clear the precious gift that Jianxin left to us, the sense of optimism, joy and happiness.

In our freshman year, Jianxin already knew the faces and names of almost everyone on the campus. Our dorms were on the first floor, and Jianxin’s dorm was near the entrance. The building is locked up at mid-night curfew. For those ladies who came back late, either from a hot date or spending last minute studying, the custodial would question harshly on each late-returner about her name, and destination room. Jianxin, who can hear all the questioning from her dorm, felt the constant urge to jump out from her bed, explain to the custodian on their identity and dorm number, and rescue those curfew offenders from further embarrassment. She was equally willing to help out each time there was a phone call, her brain worked as if it is an automatic switch board.

Jianxin’s wedding was a hilarious experience for me. In spring of 1998, Jianxin and Zak got happily married. I was in New York at the time, attended her wedding and had the honor of sitting next to Jianxin at the dinner reception. The dinner was filled with humor and funny jokes, Zak and Jianxin were truly made for each other, they both handled the tricks and pranks flawlessly, with added humor and grace. Both of them had not any clue what they would be asked to do in front of the party. I recall one of activities was to have Jianxin sending an egg through Zak’s trousers; it goes in from end of one leg and come out from another. When Jianxin completed the task, she was almost sweating, and the egg came out in one piece. I asked if she had any thought of what to do if the egg was broken, she responded that all her focus was to move the egg through, and she was glad that Zak had some slack in his pants.

Jianxin also has her serious side. She has explored many subjects in her life, including religion. During her struggle with cancer, she talked to me about the subject of religion, about her experience on the matter. She was puzzled and somewhat confused. I am not sure what she had concluded, but she fought the disease with utmost courage and optimism.

…to be continued…





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